Blog: Help Reduce Stress at School

Children experience many forms of stress each and everyday. While caring adults try their best to help reduce their stress. It is important that we carry the conversations about stress reduction from home to school.

Empowering children through psycho-education can help children increase utilization of tools. In this short, and simple handout I share helpful ways to reduce stress within the classroom. The handout is called: Reducing Stress Within The Classroom. I encourage you to download and or print for your child’s teacher(s).

 

 

 

Blog: Benefit of Structure

Achieving structure can be very difficult, and taxing as a parent/ caregiver. Adding structure to a child child’s life, often takes hundreds of times of redirection before the structure is truly accepted. The good news is- YOU CAN DO IT!!!! You do have enough love, patience, energy, and compassion to work through the difficult part!

 

“STRUCTURE allows us to invest in the things that are important to use but don’t exist inside of us yet.” –  Dr. H. Cloud

Here are some helpful ways to help you begin to add structure into your children’s lives.

1. Start simple- pick 2-3 items areas that you’d like to work on versus trying to change everything at once.

2. Communicate change change to child – and reason for change. Example: ” If we get to bed earlier, our brain will be able to have more sound sleep. More sound sleep helps you grow strong and have more energy!”

3. Communicate change to partner- begin to dialogue about the goals you’d like to see as co-parents.

4. Communicate change to additional caregivers and or 2nd household: This can be very difficult and touchy. Remember to communicate using only “I” statements.  Example: “I am noticing that Junior is more cranky after weekend visits. What time does he go to sleep?”  Be open to hearing about the reason the other caregiver(s) have different routines.  Be open to potentially flexing on an area at your home too! Remember- these changes are in the best interest of your child!

5. Reward positive behavior! This can be verbal or through incentive. Making it a team effort is the best way to gain everyone’s buy in!

6. For younger children consider using picture charts to help speak about the change. Websites such as: http://do2learn.com/picturecards/printcards/index.htm

7. Read a children’s story about routine and structure!

By helping add structure to your children’s lives you are helping them:

  • Feel safer
  • Understand unpredictable change
  • Explore in a safer manner
  • Fall asleep faster / cycle through more REM patterns

 

 

Book Review! ” Was It the Chocolate Pudding?”

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“Was It the Chocolate Pudding?” By: Sandra Levins Illustrated By: Bryan Langdo

“Was It the Chocolate Pudding?” is the story of two brothers and their experience with chocolate pudding. After the brothers have a little too much fun with their chocolate pudding, they see and hear their parents arguing. Shortly after, their parents separate and divorce. This story is about the perception of the brother’s chocolate pudding experience causing the divorce. At the end of the story, the brother’s learn that divorce is not caused by the children, but rather because of grown-up difficulties.